This Poem is about the great impact that friends can have on each other's lives.

 

Will You Ever

© Kaitlyn M. Yawn

I don't think you will
Ever fully understand
How you've touched my life and made me who I am
I don't think you could ever know
Just how truly special you are
That even on the darkest nights
You are my brightest star
You've allowed me to experience something very hard to find
Unconditional love that exists
In my body soul and mind
I don't think you could ever feel
All the love I have to give
And I'm sure you'll never realize
You've been my will to live
You are an amazing person
And without you I don't know where I'd be
Having you in my life
Completes and fulfills every part of me.

AM SEXY AND I KNOW IT!!!



                                                                
     
                                                            

dream dreams , dreams!!!

10. Blind People Dream

People who become blind after birth can see images in their dreams. People who are born blind do not see any images, but have dreams equally vivid involving their other senses of sound, smell, touch and emotion. It is hard for a seeing person to imagine, but the body’s need for sleep is so strong that it is able to handle virtually all physical situations to make it happen.
9. You Forget 90% of your Dreams

Within 5 minutes of waking, half of your dream if forgotten. Within 10, 90% is gone. The famous poet, Samuel Taylor Coleridge, woke one morning having had a fantastic dream (likely opium induced) – he put pen to paper and began to describe his “vision in a dream” in what has become one of English’s most famous poems: Kubla Khan. Part way through (54 lines in fact) he was interrupted by a “Person from Porlock“. Coleridge returned to his poem but could not remember the rest of his dream. The poem was never completed.

In Xanadu did Kubla Khan
A stately pleasure-dome decree:
Where Alph, the sacred river, ran
Through caverns measureless to man
Down to a sunless sea.
[...]

Curiously, Robert Louis Stevenson came up with the story of Doctor Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde whilst he was dreaming. Wikipedia has more on that here. Mary Shelley’s Frankenstein was also the brainchild of a dream.
8. Everybody Dreams

Every human being dreams (except in cases of extreme psychological disorder) but men and women have different dreams and different physical reactions. Men tend to dream more about other men, while women tend to dream equally about men and women. In addition, both men and women experience sexually related physical reactions to their dreams regardless of whether the dream is sexual in nature; males experience erections and females experience increased vaginal blood flow.
7. Dreams Prevent Psychosis

In a recent sleep study, students who were awakened at the beginning of each dream, but still allowed their 8 hours of sleep, all experienced difficulty in concentration, irritability, hallucinations, and signs of psychosis after only 3 days. When finally allowed their REM sleep the student’s brains made up for lost time by greatly increasing the percentage of sleep spent in the REM stage. [Source]
6. We Only Dream of What We Know

Our dreams are frequently full of strangers who play out certain parts – did you know that your mind is not inventing those faces – they are real faces of real people that you have seen during your life but may not know or remember? The evil killer in your latest dream may be the guy who pumped petrol in to your Dad’s car when you were just a little kid. We have all seen hundreds of thousands of faces through our lives, so we have an endless supply of characters for our brain to utilize during our dreams.

5. Not Everyone Dreams in Color

A full 12% of sighted people dream exclusively in black and white. The remaining number dream in full color. People also tend to have common themes in dreams, which are situations relating to school, being chased, running slowly/in place, sexual experiences, falling, arriving too late, a person now alive being dead, teeth falling out, flying, failing an examination, or a car accident. It is unknown whether the impact of a dream relating to violence or death is more emotionally charged for a person who dreams in color than one who dreams in black and white. [Source]
4. Dreams are not about what they are about

If you dream about some particular subject it is not often that the dream is about that. Dreams speak in a deeply symbolic language. The unconscious mind tries to compare your dream to something else, which is similar. Its like writing a poem and saying that a group of ants were like machines that never stop. But you would never compare something to itself, for example: “That beautiful sunset was like a beautiful sunset”. So whatever symbol your dream picks on it is most unlikely to be a symbol for itself.
3. Quitters have more vivid dreams

People who have smoked cigarettes for a long time who stop, have reported much more vivid dreams than they would normally experience. Additionally, according to the Journal of Abnormal Psychology: “Among 293 smokers abstinent for between 1 and 4 weeks, 33% reported having at least 1 dream about smoking. In most dreams, subjects caught themselves smoking and felt strong negative emotions, such as panic and guilt. Dreams about smoking were the result of tobacco withdrawal, as 97% of subjects did not have them while smoking, and their occurrence was significantly related to the duration of abstinence. They were rated as more vivid than the usual dreams and were as common as most major tobacco withdrawal symptoms.” [Source]
2. External Stimuli Invade our Dreams

This is called Dream Incorporation and it is the experience that most of us have had where a sound from reality is heard in our dream and incorporated in some way. A similar (though less external) example would be when you are physically thirsty and your mind incorporates that feeling in to your dream. My own experience of this includes repeatedly drinking a large glass of water in the dream which satisfies me, only to find the thirst returning shortly after – this thirst… drink… thirst… loop often recurs until I wake up and have a real drink. The famous painting above (Dream Caused by the Flight of a Bee around a Pomegranate a Second Before Awakening) by Salvador Dali, depicts this concept.
1. You are paralyzed while you sleep

Believe it or not, your body is virtually paralyzed during your sleep – most likely to prevent your body from acting out aspects of your dreams. According to the Wikipedia article on dreaming, “Glands begin to secrete a hormone that helps induce sleep and neurons send signals to the spinal cord which cause the body to relax and later become essentially paralyzed.”
Bonus: Extra Facts
1. When you are snoring, you are not dreaming.
2. Toddlers do not dream about themselves until around the age of 3. From the same age, children typically have many more nightmares than adults do until age 7 or 8.
3. If you are awakened out of REM (Rapid Eye Movement) sleep, you are more likely to remember your dream in a more vivid way than you would if you woke from a full night sleep

10 Tips  to stay healthy

Tip #1. Eat a Nutritious Breakfast
After a long nights sleep it is important to refuel. It will help you do better in school. Some ideas for quick, healthy breakfast: Peanut butter on toasted whole-grain bread, Yogurt with fruit, Cheese slices on toast, and Fruit on cereals. Tip #2. Eat a variety of foods.
Your body needs nutrients and many different vitamins and minerals from a variety of foods. Balancing food choices from the Food Guide Pyramid and checking nutrition labels will help you to get the nutrients you need. Tip #3. Get moving....don’t be a couch potato
Walk, bike or jog when going somewhere. Climb stairs instead of taking an escalator. Try to do something active for a total of 30 minutes every day. Tip #4. Participate in activities you enjoy.
Always start with warm-ups to get the muscles going. Do 20 minutes of an aerobic activity followed by activities that will make you stronger like push-ups or sit-ups. Tip #5. Choose healthy snacks.
It is wise to choose snacks from different food groups. Some choices would be: graham crackers, an apple or celery sticks with peanut butter and raisins. Tip #6. Include whole grains and fiber in your diet.
Try breads such as whole-wheat, bagels and pita. Spaghetti and oatmeal are also good choices. Tip #7. Participate in physical activities at school.
This would include physical education and sports. It will make you feel good about yourself. Tip #8. Drink plenty of water.
Your body is 65% water. That shows how important water is to your body. Make sure you drink a total of 8 glasses of water each day. That can inlcude the water from foods such as fruits. Tip #9. Include others in your activities.
Take a dog for a walk. Walk or workout with a friend. Tip #10. Having FUN is important.
Try new things, this can be in activities or food. Never be afraid to try....who knows you might just like it. And your body will thank you in the end.   

love

todays i shall try and put together my 2 cents worth of  opinion about love.
i really dont know much about love, but i hear falling in love is one of  the greatest things that could happen to an individual.
love in my opinon , or rather being in love with someone u love and who  loves you back can be quite an interesting experience.
love comes in many ways , some loves are hard and challenging, while other loves are as simple and almost like a fairtale  story
my own love stories are not ones i would like to share wioth anyone as they do nothing but bring back memories i would rather have erased from my mind, so that i wount have this constant aching pain whenever i remember these memories
some people may cross your path and  have a big impact on your life, and whether they stay  permanently or stick around for a short period of time, my advise is enjoy everyday, and make the most of what  God blesses u wit

       

who to watch out at the olympics

 with the london olympics starting tomorrow, heres a few people  africans should look out for, being klenyan i have no doubt kenyans will do well, as for the rest of the continent , i can only hope they make us proud

 Athletes from 53 African countries have been arriving in London ahead of Friday's opening ceremony for the 2012 Olympic Games.

So who among the continent's sportsmen and women are likely medal contenders?
BBC Africa's Farayi Mungazi picks the 10 African Olympians he thinks are in with a chance:

Segun Toriola - Nigeria: Table tennis player

Segun Toriola is Africa's most-decorated table tennis player. London 2012 will be his sixth Olympics - his first was Barcelona 1992.
In Beijing four years ago, he became the first African so far to make it to the quarter-finals.
The youngest of nine brothers, he plays professionally in France.
A former Commonwealth champion, he has also won every major honour in Africa, dominating the sport there for nearly two decades. But at the age of 38, London 2012 could well be his last Olympics.

Benjamin Boukpeti - Togo: Canoeist

Benjamin Boukpeti's bronze in the men's single kayak slalom in Beijing was the first Olympic medal in Togo's history.
He was also the first black man to win a medal in a slalom event.
Benjamin was born in France to a French mother and Togolese father.
He has struggled with injuries since Beijing, but enters his third Olympics with high hopes.

Kirsty Coventry - Zimbabwe: Swimmer

Kirsty Coventry holds the world record for the 200m backstroke and over her two previous Olympic Games she has won two gold medals, four silvers and a bronze.
The 28-year-old is seen as a national treasure in Zimbabwe - "our golden girl" President Robert Mugabe calls her - and has been voted African Swimmer of the Year five times.

Sifiso Nhlapo - South Africa: BMX rider

A former world silver and bronze medallist, Sifiso Nhlapo has represented South Africa at the World Championships a record nine times.
In Beijing - when BMX made its Olympic debut - he was in contention for a medal when he crashed out, but he still made the final.
The following year, he broke his neck in another accident - but if his body holds up, he is definitely one to watch.

Aya Medany - Egypt: Modern pentathlete

After making her Olympic debut at the Athens Games in 2004, aged just 15, Aya Medany is now one of the most recognisable sports stars in Egypt.
Her sport - the modern pentathlon - demands that she fence, swim, ride horses, run and shoot.
Her religious beliefs demand she do it wearing specific clothing.
She is the only elite pentathlete who competes wearing a hijab.
London 2012 is her third Olympics and she is on a mission to better the eighth position she achieved in Beijing.

Caster Semenya - South Africa: 800m runner

When Caster Semenya stormed to victory at the World Championships in Berlin in 2009, she also ran into a storm of speculation over whether or not she was female.
But although she has struggled to reproduce her world-beating form of 2009, she has been talking up her chances of breaking the 800m world record - the longest standing women's world record in the sport - set in 1983.
This is her first Olympic Games.
And with former world and Olympic champion Maria Mutola as her coach, Semenya is in good hands.

Tirunesh Dibaba - Ethiopia: 5,000m and 10,000m runner

Defending Olympic champion at both 5,000m and 10,000m, Tirunesh Dibaba is regarded by many as the fastest finisher in the history of women's distance running.
Since the Beijing Olympics, she has struggled with injuries - leading to lengthy lay-offs from running.
But her form suggests she may be on the way back to her best.
One of the most-anticipated events of London 2012 is her clash with fellow Ethiopian Meseret Defar and the formidable Kenyan Vivian Cheruiyot.

Amantle Montsho - Botswana: 400m runner

The world, Commonwealth and African champion, Amantle Montsho will be chasing her country's first Olympic medal so far in London 2012, her third Olympic Games.
In Athens she failed to get beyond the heats, in Beijing she made the final, but in London she is the favourite for gold.
Her strength and speed have improved considerably since Beijing and she is now the woman to beat over one lap.
She has said that an Olympic gold medal would mean everything to her and she is extremely light on her feet.

Mary Keitany - Kenya: Marathon runner

Three years ago, Mary Keitany caught the world's attention by winning the World Half-Marathon Championship.
She followed that up by smashing the world record for the distance - a record she still holds.
Since she stepped up to the full marathon distance, she has been just as impressive.
Two third places in New York came either side of a stunning victory in London in what was the fourth-fastest time in history.
It is that track record that makes her one of the favourites for gold at London 2012.

David Rudisha - Kenya: 800m runner

World champion and world record holder, David Rudisha has dominated the 800m for the past two years.
In August 2010, he broke the world record twice inside a week and then took gold at last year's World Championships in South Korea.
And the lanky Kenyan is the red-hot favourite to add the Olympic title to his collection.
London 2012 will be his first Olympic experience - he missed out on Beijing through injury.
His father, Daniel, won silver in Mexico City in 1968.

beauty of africa

           i     
 ts a beautiful continent with lots of beautiful people and  below is a link to a song by east africas kidum in which he profiles some of the most beautiful people in kenya. it is ni9ce ti know that in a world where just about  everything is westernised or you have to be a " yellow bone" to be defined as beautiful  there is still room for the natural dark brown skin
http://youtu.be/hXNYP6DiQAs

some more beautiful peole
       
 keep ma look oiut for more photos , and ladies do love yourself..be proud to be african

its july the 18th and i would like to take this opportunity and wish nelson mandela a very happy bday.
94 years i s a very long time and i hope u have urself a fab time

     
 hears to hoping u live to see another couple more years

living with a disabled child-anne ngugi's story

this morning, i came across an article by one of my favourite news readers. Anne Ngugi, in this article she speaks of her daugter  angel who was born with  the condition  hydrocephalus or having "water in the brain."  which then allows the head to grow a lot bigger than it should
 this week my aim has been to bring attention to the disabkled people in the world who may be suffering from one form of disability to another
 below is anne's recent  story about her daughter and haow she has coped with he daugters diasability
More than six years ago, Anne was involved in a relationship believing it would lead to marriage. She, however, ended up pregnant, alone and with a broken heart to mend. Anne, however, amassed her courage and carried on.
"It was scaring, but that my parents were supportive was very encouraging," she says. In March 2004 she went into labour and a very long one at that. With 21 hours of travailing and no signs of the baby, her doctor swiftly advised a C-section.
But alas! Her baby Angel was born with a defect. The doctors diagnosed the condition as hydrocephalus or having "water in the brain." This is a situation, which causes a baby’s head to swell abnormally and eventually results in stunted growth.
Babies born thus suffer from an abnormal accumulation of cerebrospinal fluid (CSF) in the ventricles or cavities of the brain. This may cause increased pressure inside the skull and progressive enlargement of the head, convulsions and mental disability. The experience can be very confusing to a parent as Ngugi confesses.
"When I held Angel in my arms, I refused to acknowledge that she had a problem and kept hoping that the swelling would subside and that she would be normal like any other baby within the shortest time," she says. "In the days following, I would massage her head with Vaseline for two hours daily, but her head kept swelling and the veins were protruding. It was then that I realised I needed to seek medical help."
Angel had her first operation when she was only three weeks old. Doctors fitted plastic medical gadgets called shunts in her head that went right through to the stomach so that they would direct the flow of fluids.
However, four months after the operation, Angel began to experience hot spells, her head was still big and she could not smile as yet.
"I could see she was very uncomfortable but not knowing what else to do, I only watched her helplessly. It was heartbreaking. How was I to continue going to work as if everything was okay yet I was dying inside?" In the same year while on assignment at Kijabe’s Bethany children’s Hospital for the crippled, she met a Caucasian doctor who advised her to take the child for an operation to remove the shunts.
"He was heaven sent and he directed me to a hospital in Uganda — Cure International Hospital — that specialised in the condition," she says. "I researched on the hospital and contacted them online. I met a Dr Charles Waff and decided to go for the operation. I was ready to do anything for Angel. However, I did not know how I would get leave from duty or where the money for the operation would come from. All I knew was that my little Angel needed help," she recalls.

Armed with Sh25,000 for a down payment and a bus ticket, Anne and baby Angel travelled to Uganda on August 26, 2004.
"At the hospital I met several women from all over Africa who had babies with a similar condition. I was the youngest; most of the women were married and had endured so much. For some, their husbands had rejected them and their babies; others had been ostracised by their communities as ‘they were cursed’. But in those two weeks, we mothers bonded — we shared our experiences and encouraged one another. It strengthened me knowing that I was not alone in this."
With stretched facilities, the stay at the hospital was not rosy but who cares when it is for your child’s sake. So after two weeks of treatment, the hour of reckoning finally dawned. The operation was meant to last six hours. "When the other mothers were called for their babies and no one was calling me, I feared the worst. I even began to see a baby casket before me; I left for the hospital garden and cried my heart out to God. Twelve hours later I was finally called in and my heart burst into joy when I saw Angel. She had not fully recovered from anaesthesia but for the first time ever she smiled — you have no idea what that made me feel".

It was when Anne returned to Nairobi that she finally came to terms with her baby’s condition — the possibility that she would be crippled. But she was prepared to buy a wheel chair, and if Angel became blind, as it was feared, she knew that she had the strength to deal with it.
Anne believes that when a child realises that you love her or him and are not ashamed of her or him then they will blossom beautifully. At times she felt embarrassed to take Angel out because other children would laugh at her or people would stare but she realised that children are innocent and the older people are just ignorant. She openly goes out with her daughter. She finally understood that her daughter deserved to be accepted the way she was and never to be hidden like she was something to be ashamed of.
"To say that it is easy to raise a special child is a huge lie but as a parent it is our duty to love our children unconditionally. Angel is a gift from God, I do not think there are many children for whom prayers have been said more than Angel. God has been faithful; today she is five and at Loreto Convent School. The doctors said she would not grow but look at her hands and legs they have grown, she is a very happy child and the teachers say that she is confident, very active and social," says Ngugi.
Anne and her husband Simon Ogolla, a businessman in the entertainment industry — a man she had been friends with for quite a while but began dating in 2007, married last year in October. They were blessed with a child — John Mark, on April 2, the same year.
"My husband loves Angel so much, they are best friends, watching them play together brings tears to my heart. As parents we talk to her about her condition and constantly tell her that she is beautiful. She knows that her head is bigger than normal and we do not pretend that it is not. We want her to know that she is just as beautiful as every other child," says Ngugi.
Her word of caution to parents is that they need to understand that every child is a gift and should be treated so and that God cannot give you more than you can handle.
Word from the expertJane Olago, a counselling psychologist at Nairobi Women’s Hospital advises that when faced with a similar situation, parents need to come to terms with it as soon as possible. And that although some people might require counselling, denial can have detrimental effects on the child.
"Instead of searching for a way to ‘cure’ your child, accepting him or her for who they are and finding ways to help them realise their full potential would work wonders. If a child realises that you are embarrassed about them or you do not accept them the way they are, then it will affect them emotionally all through their lives. Where necessary, the child should also go for counselling," she says.
She gives tips on how parents need to take care of a special child:

Do not take a special child as a "cross you must bear," but simply accept them.
It is important that parents do as much research about the condition so that they learn about the diet and different treatments available. "Become as educated as you can about your child’s condition and when others reach out to you to help, accept their help willingly."
Parents must remember to take care of themselves as well. Taking care of a special needs child can be draining, challenging, full of fear and uncertainty, not to mention incredibly difficult. There are physical challenges of your child to consider, as well as his or her emotional needs, and a great many medical concerns to think about. Plus, there is the emotional toll that caring for a seriously ill child will take on yourself and other family members.

Learn to take the situation moment by moment as opposed to day by day as things can change in a matter of seconds. Realise that there will be plenty of uncertainty and a fair share of stress and be prepared to run through a variety of emotions in a day.
Children often fear that they did something to cause the condition but parents should reassure them that he or she is in no way responsible for it.

hey, heres an article i read on yahoo and i thought i should share it with yall

7 things women find unattractive about men

RealBuzz – Mon, Jul 16, 2012

Unattractive male habit 1: Boasting

Some guys big themselves up so much that it would appear they’re trying to prove to themselves that they’re a good catch. We’ve heard about how amazing your job is, how much money you’re earning, how hot your exes were, how everyone loves you. Now time to talk about ourselves... nope, because you haven’t finished bigging up your car and your house and your hilarious personality (erm, really?). Do you think that all this bragging will make us overlook the fact that you’re so boring? Being egotistical won’t make the ladies stick around so employ a bit of modesty and try asking questions about us rather than blabbing about yourself all the time.

women find boasting unattractive in men

Unattractive male habit 2: Having no old-fashioned values

We don’t expect you to act like one of the gentlemen from a Charles Dickens’ film, but not being gentlemanly at all is a huge turn-off. You can take us on a few dates and treat us like a queen but the day you leave us to walk down a dark alley to find our car is the day we suddenly realise we’re not attracted to you anymore. We want a man who has old-fashioned values and treats his women with respect. We like to be looked after and feel safe when we’re with you, not feel as though you could ditch us at any moment because you’ve remembered you’re late for the pub with the lads.

Unattractive male habit 3: No sense of humour

If there’s one thing a man must possess to make us feel attracted to them, it’s a sense of humour. It’s a powerful tool in a conversation, particularly when overcoming awkward moments, and not having one makes you seem overly serious and boring. When we’re laughing until we can barely breathe at something undeniably hilarious, it’s not very attractive when you sit there straight-faced and serious. The guy who is having a laugh with his friends, however, always looks like a fun person to be around. We like the guy who is intelligent enough to make us laugh until our ribs hurt and won’t give us an evil stare when we start breaking out into a giggle.

Unattractive male habit 4: Scratching your private parts

They’re the big manly hands we like to hold, the hands that make us feel safe, the hands you cook the tea with on the odd occasion, and the hands you er... scratch your privates with – nice. It’s definitely a turn-off for women when men shamelessly scratch ‘down there’ without a care in the world. It gets worse when you insist on stealing our chips. You don’t pinch one off the top; you rummage right the way down to the bottom with your scratching hand. At least get your scratching fix in the bathroom when you’re not in full view of everyone else. And then wash your hands afterwards.

Unattractive male habit 5: Lack of ambition

Most women are attracted to men who have a focus in life, and we find it repulsive if you have no ambition to achieve anything. It makes it hard for us to respect you if you can’t speak to us about your goals, ideas, and things you want to achieve. No one wants to settle down with the guy who gets his kicks out of lazing around on the sofa watching day time television while we’re working hard to achieve our dreams.  Getting your kicks out of video games and nothing else is sad and boring.

Unattractive male habit 6: Expecting us to clean up after you

So you get annoyed at us for nagging, right? Well don’t give us a reason to nag then. If you didn’t leave a trail of clothes, food, and towels around the house then we wouldn’t have anything to nag about. You make out as though we’re clean freaks whose lives revolve around cleaning and tidying when, in actual fact, we just don’t want to live in a pig sty. You suddenly lose your attractiveness once we’ve seen your boxer shorts scattered around the floor and your beard hairs in the sink. We’ll clean our stuff up, you clean yours. We know this will never happen, but you’d be a million times more attractive if it did.

Unattractive male habit 7: Being over-protective

As much as we love to feel safe and cared for, there’s a fine line between that and being over-protected. Being over-protective is a sign of insecurity, and we like our men to be independent and tough. One minute we’re saying thanks to the postman for delivering a parcel, the next we’re being accused by our other half of flirting and wanting to marry the guy. Accusing us of fancying every Tom, Dick and Harry that crosses our path is annoying and it makes you seriously unattractive.